Too much of a good thing?

gina tricot t-shirt swedish love affair my new spring wardrobeYesterday I spent half the evening trying to comfort a friend of mine, whose boyfriend had just broken up with her. They didn’t live in the same city, but they saw each other several times a week and video chatted every day. After a while she decided that this wasn’t enough, that she missed him too much. So she said they should keep their video chat open all the time, even when they were sleeping. This way, it would be more like if they had been living together.

At first he said that this wouldn’t be necessary, and that it would be bad for his computer to be turned on 24/7. He tried to get out of it in other ways too. But she got really upset, and in the end he went along with it.
However, after living under constant observation for about three weeks, all of a sudden he said he couldn’t take it any more. And, sadly, ended their relationship.

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20 Responses to Too much of a good thing?

  1. Melissa says:

    I wouldn’t be able to take that either. People in relationships still need their privacy and some of their own time.

  2. nikskie says:

    long distance is a real challenge. but again, everyone needs their own time and privacy.
    hey, i love your shirt.where did you get it?

  3. Nika says:

    Sad, but long distance is tough!

    I was wondering, are you still co-washing? Will you update us on the progress, please?

  4. Sasha says:

    my s drugom zhivem v ranyh stranah, no my uzhe privykli i nas eto ustraivaet. my mnogo rabotaem, no staraemsja kak mozhno chashe viditsja ili zvonit’ drug drugu, nu ili sms/email.. A tak chto by video, da eshe i kruglye sutki, eto, na moj vzgljad, perebor, mjagko govorja.. no kazhdomu svoe!

    • Antonia says:

      Саша, ты права, это перебор! Я тоже так думаю, да и сама бы не выдержала такого наблюдения.
      А в каких вы странах, если не секрет? У меня тоже были “отношения на расстоянии”, но я лично способна это принять только если есть планы на сближение. То есть, если в обозримом будущем один к другому переедет, например. Иначе слишком тяжело, да и отношения обрече

      • Sasha says:

        ja v norvegii, a moj drug (nemets) rabotaet v nemetskoj firme v razlichnyh stranah, kuda ego napravjat. na dannyj moment on v moskve..
        kogda my poznakomilis, on zhil v norvegii. a tak my vmeste pochti 10 let, uzhe privykli. konechno, so vremenem, my najdem reshenie. no, ja scjitaju, chto ja ne dolzhna ogranichivat’ ego ambitcii i zhelanija, sejchas on stroit karjeru (emu 30) , rabotet chasto po 15-17 chasov v sutki (on konsulent po rynochnym strategijam), tak chto zhil by on tut, ja by eg vse ravo redko videla ;-)

  5. Hanna says:

    Lol is it just me who found this story hilarious? I feel bad for the girl, but I totally understand the guy :) I would advice her not to try this strategy with her next boyfriend.

  6. Arantxa says:

    The long-distance relationships are difficult and complicated. It is always difficult but we try. I’ve always thought that in this situation or the relationship breaks down or is strengthened. I am sorry for your friend. You never know, maybe fate has prepared for them a second part …

    • Antonia says:

      Thank you, Arantxa! I think you’re right. In the end we came to the conclusion that it’s all for the best. But of course, these things are tough, every time!..

  7. Rucha says:

    Wow, that’s a little extreme……
    I’m not sure I could handle someone watching me do my day to day stuff out of a computer.

  8. Araceli Estrada says:

    It must be hard to have a long distance relationship. I am not sure I could ever do it. I really believe we know when something isn’t right for us and I think your friend knew that this just wasn’t the right situation for her. Good for her for recognizing it and having the courage to make peace with it. I am sure it is hard now but better to end it now before things get too deep. Your a good friend for being there for her.

    • Antonia says:

      Thank you so much! Even I got emotionally affected by her situation. Although, in the end she could cheer up and even see the irony in it:)

      • Araceli Estrada says:

        I think I would have to if one of my friends was going through the same situation. I am glad you were able to cheer her up :-)

  9. janerowena says:

    I thought it sounded a bit creepy. I can understand that she thought it was a good idea, and maybe for one night it would have been, but it sounded a bit obsessive to me. I would hate it.

    I wondered about your hair experiment too. I found that I had to give in and wash mine with shampoo after a few days – maybe if my hair was coloured, and so drier, it would work better. I shall still do it from time to time, though, it felt lovely.

    • Antonia says:

      Jane, I totally agree with you! I tried telling her the same thing (less straight forward though), but of course it was hard to understand it in her position. I can say I wasn’t surprised when he did it, even though she’s the sweetest girl!..

  10. If he had such a problem with it, why did he not talk to her about it? A relationship is about communication. Surely he didn’t break up because of this, but there was another reason.

  11. Natalia says:

    OMG. that’s not a “a little” – thats flat out wierd! i’m amazed he agreed to this insanity at all. things we do for love (i mean, the guy).

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